I don’t want to sound like some ingrate or spoilt brat but my parents are REALLY driving me up the wall.
They are old and forgetful which is no fault of theirs of course…and I can bear with it… just remind them lor….. what to do?
My mum is overbearing and it drives me absolutely insane. She makes the decisions herself but yet at the same time asks for advice – when I already said no, she still will go ahead to do whatever and of course, inconveniencing us (that’s why i said no) this happens ALL THE TIME. daily activity of the ng family. I told her I will do my own laundry becos 1/ she doesn’t do it well and it’s still smelly..2/ and i don’t want her to become very busy – I’m taking a load off her as well. But obviously, this rule has gone through the ear and bypassed the brain somehow or rather and went out the other side.
It has come to a point where my attitude becomes – ok whatever she does, i will not praise it nor would I scold – I just bend myself or come to a compromise and avoid if i can. But somehow or rather, it’s still annoying me.
I’m not trying to be a spoilt idiot scolding my mum all the time. No one can understand actually cos no matter how much I say, – it’s my end of the story- and I make it sound like I am an ingrate spoilt and pampered. I’m lucky I have a mother etc etc etc that cooks for me lah, tries to do laundry.YES i know i’m extremely blessed to have a mum around when some don’t.. but living with her has pushed me back into a shell which I only come out once in a while…
I am totally antisocial because I don’t like being smothered. I just want to live with myself. Much as I do not want to say it, but truely, it’s because of my mother. (and father sometimes)
it bothers me so much being so smothered by my mother – i don’t want to get another person next to me. My personal space has become so huge – I just push people away…. I don’t think anyone would understand. but my mother really wants to ‘guan’ everything which ANNOYS me a lot….
When I was young, I wanted to join gymnastics – obviously I got a no from her. I always wanted long hair when I was in primary school – nope. I had many barbie dolls as presents but all were given away… best thing is… when I tried to tell my mum that it does matter she actualyl said ‘why u still remember all these?’ BECAUSE IT MATTERS! and obviously i left it at that cos she didn’t even want to know why i brought it up in the first place.
Why? Because I’m really sick of her trying to control my life – which i do small things like dye my hair which she absolutely hates… I respect her so I haven’t ran away from home ( and i have no money lah)
There are many times i tried to bring it up but she keeps thinking tat i’m bringing up a topic because of what is happening NOW but what I want to say is general.. she STILL DOESN’T get it…
my dad has just learnt to shut up and sweep everything under the carpet. which i don’t blame him.
I forgot my mum’s bossy too..which haiyah sometimes i do the opposite of what she orders me to do… when I feel childish.
Dad’s just very very LONGWINDED. listening to him is like listening to a lecture – main points then must elaborate why this why that as if I’m a 2 yr old kid… then i just let him go on and on and on.. but actually I’m quite busy doign laundry or have things to do..he just happens to bring up some stupid topic at the wrong time.
He doesnt’ listen – as in listen to what u just said – and then best thing is he can pretend that he heard it…. ask him to repeat cannot. Best thing is he has to right as all guys have to be, and so when I say a fact he just sweeps it off and he must repeat it as if HE IS THE ONE who stated it not me… so after a while i just shut up.
Both of them has caused me to shut up. seriously. i don’t mean to sound bad but i really see no point in trying to open up, just have a casual talk (which ends up in a one-sided conversation which is my dad talking or mum lah). I know that they just want to spend time with me.. but seriously, I don’t feel that they respect, esp mum, that I am a human being with my opinions as well that need to be heard as well. I don’t need my opinions to be right but i need to be respected… as a human being. SMART one.. cos my mum thinks i’m dumb (cos of all her instructions that r very detailed)…. hahaha
I still spend time with them but only talk the neccessary… yesterday I was SOOOOOOOO angry i didn’t speak a word…
Oh well. only way out of this is to get married —- which is near impossible.. then i get another set of parents!!! oh no!! right.
